Normally I spend all Summer “improving” on my understanding of myself: likes, dislikes, all of that but I didn’t particularly have too much time this time because of my mental health. Basically I needed to be patient and that proved more difficult than usual. Now that I’ve been able to realize I definitely had a lack of energy to ADHD, I’ll share with you the process in what I mean by improving.
I consider myself funny (not debateable), but I’ll show you the process of questions I ask myself for that being a positive trait: “Have I made someone upset by a joke I said?”, “If yes, did I act in a respectful way or did I get defensive?”, “Was the joke necessary?”, “Was their identity the punchline?”, “Have I paid attention to when I joked or was I just trying to be funny?”. I REALLY unpack what words I use. If I said I was nice, my reaction would be “how do you mean?”. Are you just nice because it’s what you want to do or because you want something out of it? Then apply to your relationships, or at least the relationships you value. You’ll learn that sometimes you can always do a bit better, forgive yourself and acknowledge you still have more to learn, and make apologies if you feel they are necessary. Whether someone accepts your apology or not ia not for you to decide based on what you’ve done. Just promise them and yourself to grow and do better.
Something With Nothing 