I am multifaceted, a wearer of many hats, but never any masks. If I am someone unfamiliar for someone else it is because that is who I am with them and if you wonder why I am not that way around you, it is because you are not that person. You require a tweak, a me for you, but noticeably still me. It’s the energy. A song that feels familiar that you’ve heard for the first time. If you feel “not you” or uncomfortable in your own skin it’s because you’re lying to yourself about something, and I’m all about helping to find out what that is. Other times you know and that’s where speaking to a therapist really helps. But it takes time, and honesty, no matter the answer. Freedom, peace, love… All those great things are goals that seem unattainable only because we lie so often, as a collective. To truly believe in something is to be vulnerable and honest (for women, the impact of honesty is far more terrifying and random to me, which I can’t begin to understand). If you don’t find freedom, peace, and love for yourself there is no way you can see it in the world.
What do I suggest because you aren’t going to ask? Glad you asked! Likes/dislikes. Write what you like and don’t like about yourself, things that can be improved not just berating yourself for what you believe to be “flaws” because you feel you have to fit a societal “norm”. An example, recently I feel I talk too much in groups of people or that I hog too much of a conversation. So I began asking others during conversations if I am talking too much to let me know, in order to share the floor. You don’t have to always wonder if you’re pleasing others, what matters is how much respect you offer to yourself which, in turn pleases the right people. Also, come back to a conversation that you aren’t finished with if you had more time to think about it. You don’t just stop growing unless you choose to and if you choose to the world becomes a whole lot better easier, until it doesn’t… Because time stands still for no one.
Something With Nothing 